"Lessons learned at home in the middle of a pandemic" (Orig. written 03/13/2021 after a "passionate discussion" with my wife led to my a-ha moment. Rev 11/06/23 for Substack.)
Exactly. I’ve tended to get stuck in the correctness of what was said or repeated to me. I would get stuck in the thinking and fail to see the feelings expressed, which is still part of that communication. It stepped up my understanding of not taking things personally (Four Agreements).
Speaking of four agreements. I think I’m going to make that a yearly read/first book of the year read. I feel like that’s a good way to start every year.
Reminds me of this part in the book I’m reading rn about practicing mindfulness. Recognizing how what someone said to you triggers an emotion but not reacting in regards to that emotion. Seeing it... feeling it... letting it be... and then responding calmly after you try to understand what emotion your partner in this case was feeling when they made the comment.
Exactly. I’ve tended to get stuck in the correctness of what was said or repeated to me. I would get stuck in the thinking and fail to see the feelings expressed, which is still part of that communication. It stepped up my understanding of not taking things personally (Four Agreements).
Speaking of four agreements. I think I’m going to make that a yearly read/first book of the year read. I feel like that’s a good way to start every year.
Reminds me of this part in the book I’m reading rn about practicing mindfulness. Recognizing how what someone said to you triggers an emotion but not reacting in regards to that emotion. Seeing it... feeling it... letting it be... and then responding calmly after you try to understand what emotion your partner in this case was feeling when they made the comment.