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Ohhh, woman, I love this! Such a good start to a very important discussion. The way you frame the difference between boundaries and rules is so insightful and empowering, and I feel it’s so needed today. I think we’ve grown out of a world where authority is supposed to be followed just because of age and where the young are expected to obey rules without question, simply “because I said so.” A rebel in me wakes up immediately!

It should never be about obedience. It should be about self-regulation.

And it's our job to teach children how to do that.

This topic is deeply important! I also teach young kids, though online, where there are far fewer rules (probably why I love this way of teaching!). But what really stayed with me is how you don’t see teenagers as troublemakers for the sake of it. The heart of the piece is clear: kids are not the problem—we are. And it’s often easier to say “they don’t listen,” “they don’t care,” “they’re just rebellious”… but really, we adults are the ones who need to grow up, to become the kind of people who can hold space for them to grow up, too.

Thank you for this piece. That rebel in you is sacred, and this world needs more adults like you!

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